I wonder though if my efforts at hospitality are over after my guests leave and the last dish is washed? Or is there another part in the process that's just as important?
Should I also evaluate me hospitality efforts? Should I "grade" myself (for lack of a better word) after offering hospitality?
Maybe grade is the wrong word since I'm not thinking about a pass or fail kind of thing. I'm thinking more along the lines of going over the experience as a hostess to see what we can learn from it.
For example, as I thought through our recent 4th of July celebration I understood a couple of things about myself and my family better.
- First, I realized that I need to be more considerate about the different personalities in my household when it comes to offering hospitality.
- Next, I realized that all the advance prep work I did really helped me enjoy the party and that I should always prepare most of my work ahead of time.
- Finally, I realized that I prefer talking with my guests to making sure food dishes are full and napkins are available. I really, really, really am not a "behind the scenes" kind of person.
Here are a few questions I thought of:
- Was my guest comfortable? Why or why not?
- Did my guests enjoy each meal item? Was there an obvious favorite? Was there an item they politely declined?
- Did the seating arrangement work comfortably?
- Did my guests feel welcomed and loved?
- How can I improve the experience next time? What changes can/ should I make?
- Did my family feel included in the process or neglected?
- What can I learn about God, myself and my family from this experience?